THE LAST TIME I WRITE ON THIS on the OLDDDDDDDDD computer... the new one comes tomorrow!!! So for the last time on the junk box...The role women play in almost every culture is that of the head of the home, hers is to turn a house into a home. She is the one that sets the tone in the house. If it is a place of fear, from misbehavoir or shame, guilt from not doing as you are asked. My favorite is the authoritarian, " as long as you are in my house..." , ususally a place without trust and a lot of punishent. This is the environment in which I was raised. I always felt less than human, as if I was something broken..needing to be fixed. Of course they where the only ones who could tell what was best for you, never seeing the children as entities unto themselves. These, I precieve as a way of making the home into a place to be feard. Then there are the ways of making the house into a home of support, confidence, respect and love. I choose the latter, always trusting my children. telling them there is no shame in making mistakes, which means we must learn from them, and try really hard not to repeat them." I am sorry "only counts when it means you are going to do your best not to repeat that action. slip ups happen all the time, just means owning up. Honesty and trust are the corner stone of such an envionment. Love and honor are the end results. My home had one rule....i get a hug when they come in, before the fridge is opened. I saw my self as a guide, to help each member of the home be the best at who they are. I was and still want to be someone to supports who ever comes throgh our door, being the person who will always love, respect and honor you. this is too all the homemakers....a fullfiling role which done properly parovides everyone a loving atmoshpher, in which to grow into the best you possible.
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